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March 07th, 2015

3/7/2015

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I have been going back and forth as to whether or not I should write this blog. I really try to keep this website professional, and this post is going to be a little more personal. Educators come to look at it to see if they want to book me for speaking engagements. People who I don't know come to look at it to not feel so alone. However, I thought about it a little more, and this website is personal. The problems I write about and speak about are personal. So I decided to just go for it. 

Just a little disclaimer. This might sound like I want pity. I don't. What you are about to read are facts. I just would like to tell you some of these facts I am experiencing. I know for a fact that I'm not alone. If this post helps just one person or makes just one person feel not so alone, I will know I did the right thing. 

I'm frustrated. 

I'm extremely frustrated. 

I feel like a thirty year old trapped inside an infant's body. I just gave up my apartment; something that I dreamed about since I was fifteen. If I want to get another apartment, I know I will need an outstanding team to help me. I need physical help for pretty much everything. It is very hard to get good help. When I don't have good help who understands what I want to do, I don't feel like doing anything. 

I was talking to my friend who is kind of in the same situation and she described it perfectly. 

I am stuck. I feel like all of the people around me are moving on, and getting married, and having kids, and here I am. Just stuck. 

Now, I don't like to dwell on problems. I like to fix problems. So I have been asking myself what I can do. What can you do when you can't really change your situation? 

Here are three things I am going to start doing to try to help myself. If you, too, are feeling "stuck", maybe this will help you. 

Focus on my writing. As most of you know, I have to rewrite my second manuscript. I actually don't mind this. I'm happy to have something that I can make better. Writing makes me feel good. Writing makes me feel productive. Writing is something I can do by myself. Along with a few other books, I think I have an idea for a short piece, and after talking to my friend, I think I am going to do it for my website. 

Get more presentations. I still like talking to groups and spreading my message, so if you have any suggestions on how to get more presentations, I'm all ears. 

Don't dismiss the small stuff. I absolutely love listening to music on my bed. I absolutely love listening to a good book. I like watching a favorite show on Netflix all day. I like emailing with a friend. I like going to the mall, even when I don't need anything. I like going for frozen yogurt. So I think I need to know I can do all of this without feeling guilty or thinking I'm a loser. 

Hmmm. Now I wrote everything out... I'm frustrated with the things I can't do and need to remember to enjoy the things I can do? This doesn't sound that uncommon after all. 

3 Comments
Liz
3/7/2015 09:32:10 am

Hi Sara I know how you feel I just got my apartment 3mos ago. And I like being independent I have no help my mom takes me to the store and doc appointments but I am living at highrise for seniors and ppl with disabilities and I really like it I would feel so defeated if I didn't have this opportunity to show family friends and the world that I couldn't do this but I got though the last two months ok and have alot of new friends and they are some are becoming my 2nd family but it will get better for you!

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Pamela
3/7/2015 12:51:26 pm

This might sound trite and therefore useless, but sometimes I get unstuck by reminding myself that I deserve the good things I desire, same as anybody does. I do keep my blessings in mind (I have plenty!) yet sometimes I still get stuck mentally. So I create little mantras, reminding myself that I am worthy of the same happiness, opportunities, and friendships that I wish for others to have. That helps me with the mental side of being stuck and often that is enough to get the rest of my brain flowing with ideas to bring those desires to fruition. Good luck!

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Donna mccullough
3/7/2015 11:02:43 pm

What a lovely woman you have become Sara! No words can describe how your post affected me

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